Thursday, November 22, 2012

My Testimony: Part 4 {Redeemed}

I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving!
Thanks for joining me for my final post (for now) of my testimony!  I appreciate all the support and encouragement.  You have each been such a blessing to me already!!!
If you are here for the first time or missed the first 3 testimony post..... you may want to read them first.

{Sorry for a longer post I had originally planned to do a part 4 and 5 but since I didn't post on Thursday I shortened them and combined the two}

So after C and K were both born I Loved being a mom...always have!!  No matter what part of my life I was in (since having them) I loved being a mom....and I loved my babies more than any other thing in this world.  No amount of depression or self destruction could take that love away!! Sometime I think that is why God gave them to me when he did.  He knew I would soon be back at rock bottom and it would be my children that would keep me alive....keep me from fully giving up!  I know my kids do not know what they have done for me but I just hope as a mom I can in return ALWAYS be there for them, no matter what.  So I guess you can figure out by this I did go through another battle with severe depression, anxiety, self hate, etc etc etc.  Looking back it is so hard for me to see how I could have even been so sad when I had my two precious babies that made me smile every day.  But my troubles had nothing to do with them.  They are my personal struggles and troubles.  Even though I had two kids with me all the time I was lonely.  I was lonely and I hated EVERYTHING about myself.  I hated who I was, what I saw in the mirror..I was not the person I wanted to be.  And I know without a doubt if it weren't for my precious gifts from God I would NOT be here today! Simple as that! But I would never and still will never give up because I could never hurt my kids and I cannot imagine a day without them.  
But Kelly and I were fighting still and I was fighting so many inner battles...things I have never been able to tell anyone...and still haven't except for Kelly (and that was just this year and one of my best friends...again this year)  But my battles with myself were causing battles with everyone else.  I had a lot of support but I also think some liked my made them look better.  While several in my life were supportively there for me I feel some encouraged me to take more or other wrong paths.  Maybe my struggles made them feel or look better?  
I got so depressed I stopped fixing myself up, (I was ugly anyways so why should I even try is an example of something I would tell myself)  I would replay all the bad things in my life...and if I shared them all..well lets just say they would need a blog of their own, not just a few post, ha!!  I have been through so much in my life from things in my childhood all the way up to this point.  But lets be honest who hasn't?
The point came where I knew I couldn't end my own life (literally) so I would end my marriage.  I remember the painful things I said to Kelly and I feel so bad about them now.  I hope he knows I didn't mean them. At that time I just wanted him to hurt like I was hurting.  I told him I was leaving several times.  He would never chase after first then he would convince me to come back.  Finally I was DONE..we were never going to change...I know now I was just looking for somehow to run away.  I broke Kellys heart and he cried and promised me if I would stay our lives would change.  I believed him....WHY you may ask. Well regardless of the pain I had in my marriage and with myself none of it was ever caused by him being dishonest.  He never lied to me. He was always honest with me so why should I question him now?!
Kelly agreed to do the "LOVE DARE" and oh he was so good at it.  Honestly and don't ever tell him I said this but he was better and more committed (at times) with it than I was.  There were even days I wouldn't read it but He did.  I had already had in my mind he didnt want me  (I didnt even want me).  BUt this book/dare as silly as it sounds was a stepping stone in bringing us back together.  More importantly bringing us closer to God and founding our relationship on HIM.  I remember Kelly saying one day if I would't leave we would start going to church.  ...So we did and we eventually put GOD back in our lives, both personally and in our family and marriage. 
 I had/Have never felt a stronger connection with my LORD as I do now.  We joined a church and fully committed EVERYTHING we have to GOD.  I could go on forever to say how much my life has changed since I finally let God call the shots and lead my life.  I am so excited about His Love.  For the first time in my life I  was able to go off ALL medication for my depression....AND I AM SOOOO HAPPY. Now I am not saying every day is easy but I HAVE BEEN REDEEMED I am forgiven and set free!!!.  I AM HAPPY. I no longer cry out in pain or anger.  I see GOD in all my life....the past and the present and I know He is in my future..forever.  I am committed to serve him for the rest of my days!!  
Now when I look back over my past I see how God never left me!!  He always had a plan for me and always protected me.  Even though I may have experienced abuse of all sorts, Severe depression, self hatred, loss of a child, experiment with drugs and alcohol and so much more He also gave me SOOO many miracles.  Even I am one of His wonderful miracles...AND SO ARE YOU!! We are all Gods children and one of his wondrous miracles.  I know now why God has led me to work in counseling...I have been through so much that I am pretty sure I can relate with just about anyone.  But I can glorify God now even at the worst points in my life.  Each and every experience has brought me closer to God today.  They formed me into the person I am now.  The one who want to be there for everyone else and tell them they too can be saved!! It is never too late to turn to Jesus...He has not nor will not ever turn you away!!  I can honestly say this is the happiest I have ever been in my life!  What is there not to be happy about?  Even when life is hard (yes my life is still hard) and even when I get down on myself I am still a child of God and He loves me just as I am!! These past several years have been the best years of my life and I am so excited about more to come!  I know God has great plans for me/us!!
I am also so thankful for a husband who never gave up on me and who knows ALL my flaws and seen me at my worst but still LOVES me.  I am thankful he too is such a strong man of God and that our marriage and our personal lives are now fully committed to GOD


thank you for allowing me to share a bit of my testimony....please feel free to contact me about anything in my testimony or to share yours...or simply just for prayer.  or even just hey, what's up =) 




  1. Amen! What an amazing testimony, Thank you for sharing it:)

  2. Love Love Love this. And just think, if your husband loves you that much, how much greater does God love you? I still have a hard time wrapping my head around that! I am redeemed I've been set free reminds me of that song by Big Daddy Weave. If you haven't heard it, you will bawl your eyes out, especially since it is such an intricate part of your testimony. I love your testimony!! Huge hugs to you, dear!! Have a beautiful weekend. :)

    Here's a link to the song:

  3. Thank you so much for sharing it! It definitely blessed me. I think I've had "God bumps" while reading each section...especially this one! *hugs*
    Have a wonderful weekend, Cat!

  4. Hi Cat! I read your first 2 posts a few days ago and then when you linked up on my blog hop, I read 3 and 4. Thanks for sharing and thanks for linking! God bless! P.S. I love your beautiful family photo with the ocean in the background!

    Tina - American mom raising 4 kids in South Africa

  5. I am so glad you have found such a good place to be now! I hope you continue on your journey!

  6. Hi Cat, I just read this last chapter, and now I must go read the beginning and middle. Praise the Lord for all I can see He has brought you through !! Without Jesus where oh where would any of us be. I am blessed to have met you !!

  7. I love your testimony Cat! I am so thankful for your obedience to share it with others! God will do big, BIG things with it! XO!

  8. Hey Cat! I found you through the Almost Friday Thursday blog hop & I'm soooo glad I did!! What an amazing testimony you have! I know it was so hard for you to share parts of it with the whole world, but God has given you this testimony for you to share it and you did! I definitely teared up multiple times for all the pain you've endured, but also for all the wonderful things that you have been blessed with! I have a friend who is pregnant right now and the baby has a fatal birth defect and she will be delivering next week. She'll be put under so she may not meet her baby while he's still alive. I'm praying for a miracle, but I'm praying for acceptance and strength in case God takes her precious boy with Him. Her name is Alisa if you'd like to join me in praying for her. But anyway, thank you for sharing your testimony and I'm so excited to read more of your posts! You have such a beautiful family! Be blessed :)



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